“No More Blame Game.”

The best revenge is actually not taking any revenge at all. It’s not even holding on to any anger at all. It’s moving on with your life. It’s showing them life is so much better after they’re gone.

It’s easy to blame those that have wronged us but for just about everything, that is wrong, with our life. If it wasn’t for them, I would be happy. If it wasn’t for them, I would have more money. If they didn’t do this, I would be where I want to be.

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Most people get so caught up in blaming; they continue to blame and sabotage their own life long after the person is gone from their life. Most people hold on to the blame because it’s easier than moving on. Having an excuse or a story of why they aren’t where they want to be gets them sympathy from others. The victim role gives them comfort. And it is much easier than taking responsibility and moving on with their life. However it is not and will never be a happy place to stay.

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Those who take responsibility for their life and  want to move and put the past behind them are much more likely to gain freedom, success and happiness. Now this does not mean there aren’t horrible people in the world that have done wrong by others. It is not condoning other’s behavior. It is taking back the power they have from you, when you are the one suffering long after they are gone.

  • Who wins if you move on, forget about them and create the best life and success you could ever imagine?
  • Who wins if you move on? Who wins if you forget about them?
  • Who wins if you create your best ever life, full of success and abundance?

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                           YOU WIN!

Take back your power. Blame them for what they have done, but don’t blame them for what you haven’t done. Blame them for what they have done, but bless them for making you stronger, for making you better. Blame them for what they have done, but thank them for showing you exactly what you don’t want. You can blame the world for bringing them into your life, but then grateful for all the lessons it taught you, all the strength it gave you, all the perspective it gave you.

Know in your heart if they knew better they would do better. Know in your heart you don’t need to take on any of their negative energy. How good does it feel to take that baggage of your shoulders? To focus on building your future. What a blessing! Let go. MOVE Forward. Never look back.

The best revenge is not taking any revenge. It is simply moving on with your life, creating the best version of yourself.

 

“Bloomed Souls”

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Not all my kind

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So many are crushed

And fragrance dispersed

And some with beauty

Undiscovered, withered

Some, with high perfection bloom

No autumn, no winters befall doom

Some rest upon the majestic head

Others entwined, put over the dead

A bud, when, with grace unfolds

A flower like me the nature holds.

 

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“Those Who Walk Alone have the Strongest Direction”

 

Success can be a lonely road. It can be a tough road.It can be a hard road.It’s not for everyone.Those who follow others like sheep will never know who they truly are.Only those who follow their own path can discover their TRUE POTENTIAL.

Those who fly alone have the strongest wings.Those who walk alone have the strongest direction.The rest will always be IN NEED of others for their survival.They will always need attention.Need recognition to survive.You are at peace alone.Needing no attention.No recognition.And STILL you can THRIVE.

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I’m not saying those who have support are weak.I’m not saying you must go it alone to gain strength.This is just for those who have fought battles alone,those who have felt like they don’t fit in,those who have never had support in anything they do.All of those who feel no one believes in them…You don’t need them to believe in you IF YOU BELIEVE IN YOU.You don’t need their support if you’ve got your own back.The best part is when you truly live the life you want to live,when you speak your truth…when you embrace who you are…then you gain real respect and real love.

People love those who have the GUTS to be themselves,those who have the COURAGE to follow their heart. WHY? it’s RARE.WHY? because most people wish they could do the same.SHOW THEM THE WAY, KEEP GOING, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.It will all come good in the end and when it does,you won’t have only inspired yourself to be more,you will have inspired so many others.

You had to learn to fight alone and because of that you will be strong alone.YOU ARE STRONG FULLSTOP.You can developed inner strength that can’t be broken.YOU ARE UNBREAKABLE. Because of the pain YOU ARE STRONG. Because of the struggle you have character most will not know.You appreciate others more than ever.You have more compassion than ever.You had to go deep into the darkness.Now  You have more depth.Now You can see clearer.You had to face huge internal challenges.Now You can defeat any challenge.

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YOU WILL PROUD OF WHO YOU HAVE BECOME, YOU WILL PROUD YOU HAVE OVERCOME,YOU WILL PROUD YOU KEPT GOING,YOU WILL PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE.You will proud that you stay true to yourself because now you can live as yourself with respect from others and most importantly pride and respect from yourself.No one can define who you will become. YOU DECIDE by the action you take TODAY!                                                    

“Biggest Mistake”

When asked “What’s the biggest mistake we make in life?”The Buddha replied,”The biggest mistake is you think you have time.”

Time is free but its priceless .You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. And once it’s lost you can never get it back.

The average person lives 78 years. We spend 28.3 years of our life sleeping. That’s almost a third of our life but 30% of us struggle to sleep well. We spend 10.5 years of our life working but over 50% of us want to leave our current jobs.

Time is more valuable than money .You can get more money but you can never get more time. We spend 9 years on T.V. and social media. We spend 6 years doing chores. We spend 4 years eating and drinking. We spend 3.5 years in education. We spend 2.5 years in grooming. We spend 2.5 years shopping. We spend 1.5 years in child care. We spend 1.3 years commuting. That leaves us with 9 years. How will we spend that time?Value-your-time-and-life-600x399

Steve Jobs said “Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else life”. So there’s good news and there’s bad news. The bad news is time flies, and the good news is you’re the pilot.

Imagine you wake up every day with $86,400 in your bank account and at the end of the night it’s all gone whether you spent it or not. And then the next day you get another $86,400.What would we do with it? Everyday 86,400 seconds are deposited into your life account. At the end of the day once they’re all used up you get a new 86,400 seconds. We would never waste it if it was money, so why do we waste it when it comes to time? Those seconds are much more powerful than dollars because you can always make more dollars, you can’t always make more time.

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To realize the value of 1 year, ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of 1 month ask a mother who lost their child in the final month. To realize the value of 1 week ask the editor of an online magazine. To realize the value of 1 hour ask the couple who’s in a long distance relationship. To realize the value of 1 minute ask the person who just missed a bus, train or plane. To realize the value of 1 second ask the person who just missed an accident. To realize the value of millisecond, ask the person who just came 2nd at Olympics.

We think its people wasting our time but it’s really us giving them permission to do that and in reality, these 2 people live inside us. Don’t let someone be a priority when all you are to them is an option. Some of us lose the people most important to us because we don’t value their time. Some of us don’t recognize how important someone is to us until they’re gone.

Inside all of us are 2 voices-1 voice that wants to uplift.1 voice that wants us to expand.1 voice that wants us to grow. And then there’s other voice-The voice that holds us back. The voice that makes us lazy. The voice that makes us complacent. The voice that restricts us from our potential. Every day the moment we wake up until the moment we go to sleep, inside of us there’s this battle between the 2 voices. And guess which one wins? The one we listen to the most. The one that we feed. The one that we amplify. It is our choice of how we use our time.

Life and time are the best two teachers. Life teaches us to make good use of time and time teaches us the value of life. And as William Shakespeare said,

     “Time is very slow for those who wait,

      Very fast for those who are scared,

      Very long for those who lament.

      And very short for those who celebrate

      But for those who love, time is eternal.”